If you found out that you only one week left to live, how would you spend that time?  I would venture to say that the power bill, rent, car payment, nor your relationship issues would be a top priority. Several years ago, I remember going through a period of financial uncertainty and needless to say, I WAS STRESSED!  I would toss and turn all night or stare at the ceiling because my brain would not shut down.  Not having the resources to meet the demands that were on me caused my mind to go into survival mode.  I would spend hours running scenarios in my head as to how I would make ends meet and it was exhausting.  After several nights of barely sleeping, I remembered that there were two places that I was guaranteed to get some restful sleep.  One of the places is my parents house because it is always so peaceful there.  

The other is my great-grandmother’s house because it’s so hot there, it’s easier to just go to sleep than stay woke and watch yourself melt!  Trust me, you will pass out!   What is it about old people and being steadfast with keeping that power bill low?  They will let you dehydrate and die before they pay an expensive power bill.  You have to know your limits when you visit grandma’s house….when you start saying to yourself ”Ok self, it’s totally fine to die now”, don’t sit there another minute.  Get up and go sit on the porch.  And please take a bottle of cold water with you.  

So you guessed it, the next evening I drove two hours to my parents house and slept like a baby.  When I finally woke up the next morning, my dad was in his favorite chair (his recliner) watching Clint Eastwood’s “The good, the bad, and the ugly”.  I figured that I would spend some time with him and watch the movie since the title summed up the status of my life.  My favorite line in the movie comes from the late Lee Van Cleef that says “If you work for a living, why do you kill yourself working”.  I took that pearl of wisdom and applied it to my life and posed the question “If I want to enjoy this life of mine, why do I spend it worrying”.  In the history of life, worrying has only produced gray hair, high blood pressure, and heart attacks.  Since I don’t desire either of the three, I made a choice that day to accept the things that I cannot change, to focus solely on the things that I can change and to have the wisdom to distinguish between the two.  

Be Blessed,

Patrick Hurd

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